Thursday, April 03, 2008

Acknowledgements:

This is after around 10 months that I am writing on my blog. I guess I have laid low owing to several factors, my lethargy topping the list. The great bloggers around me, those who inspired me to blog (Vinayakzark and Sunny the Somani) and those who took to blogging very recently (the list has quite a few dear friends), come second on the list as I was perhaps scared of writing badly and they finding the proverbial and the poor black sheep. The disinterest my girlfriend shows in all things related to literature also played a part but mind you all, I was never short of ideas during the barren period. There were numerous train sojourns with the usual culprits Kisalay, Arpit and Sunny (different from The Sunny) and we fought like dogs with several Hippopotamuses. Then, there was this great internship saga which deserves to be told but I will keep it for now and then, several brain waves later, Here I am - once more.

Now, please get serious.

Anecdote:

There I was with a Muslim friend of mine. We had to go somewhere on a Scooty and needed some fuel for the same. As we were on our way back to the Scooty with the fuel, just out of curiosity and for poking fun, I asked him what if the security guy at the main gate hollers at you for carrying an inflammable inside the campus and accuses you of being a terrorist once he knows your name. The reply I got had me stunned into silence that day. He – the one who is known for his equanimity in all conditions, the one who is affable to the whole of my group for his cherubic smile, replied, “ Yaar, agar aise kisi ne kabhi kaha naa, to, I will turn into one”.

Post:

I am still dumbstruck by the firmness of his voice; the spontaneity of it still rings in me. I have thought about the enormity of it and have felt that we need to strike out the cause for such a response coming from an IIT undergraduate. I mean, if education does not lead to a rational way of thinking, we are in serious trouble. Something somewhere is wrong and so much so that we are taking too many clichés for granted. Sample these and see if you too are.

Muslim – Probability of him being a pro-Pakistan, pro-terrorist is approaching unity. He cheers for Shoaib Akhtar and occasionally for Irfan Pathan and Kaif.

Bihari – Creates nuisance everywhere, spits on the road, breaks rules, has poor English, has designs against the hands that feed him and is ready to fight anytime.

Bengali – Is a coward, is a communist.

Foreigners - Sexually promiscuous, get divorced at least once, are rich.

There are many more but I neither have time nor the tempo to enlist all of them.

Now, have not all of us met Muslims who are truly Indians, and Biharis with better civic sense than, say, a Non-Bihari? Why can’t we accept the simple fact that man is far too superior a creature to have his characteristics/behavior predicted by interpolation or extrapolation? Why can’t we give everyone a fair chance to show his/her evil side before castigating him/her? Why can’t we have the default status as innocent for everyone, be it a Muslim, a Bihari or …..?

What happens instead is that our tinted views irritate the person/community concerned to such an extent that subconsciously they start conforming to the stereotype. So, this blog is dedicated to all those with such tinted views with an appeal to give your heart a chance, think of the ignominy you will feel if subjected to the same kind of racial slur, think of the innocents who get killed in the riots and blasts, think of the color of blood and please give humanity a chance.

I feel the post has come to an abrupt end but I believe ramming the idea won't help. I just wish that you all start giving others a chance to behave against the set notions that you have.


39 comments:

ronsin said...

bingo!!! you couldn't have been more correct...
the reason for the "tinted" view might be because we like classifying things... just like it is too difficult to study elements without categorizing them into alkalis, halogens etc... it is probably too difficult for us to know each person for what he is... and all seems to go on well till we are at the receiving end ourselves...
may be we need some sort of elementary knowledge of law which would teach to consider everyone innocent unless proved otherwise... sadly what we do is just the opposite...

Unknown said...

Nice post and very important point raised!

I hope people will stop using those cliches after reading it [;)]

One lesson learnt: Dogs should never fight with Hippopotamuses [:ha]

Prateek Agrawal said...

yarr tum jo bhi ho.. i dont know u ..apne jani bhai ne recommend kiya mujhe ye bolg padhne ko..so here i am..i want to confess one thing...that topic u hav touched is very relevant in today's times.. n i can say that from first hand experience...khair dost zyada nahi pakaunga..but one thing ...BAWAAL likha hai...tc..

anurag said...

A good comeback post!
You have made me think and I felt sorry for myself for categorizing things beforehand and treating them in a way that shouldn't be.
Thanks for making me realize that we as supposedly one of the best brains of the country should take the stance and start behaving like a responsible citizen.

Anonymous said...

Good issue raised.. hope ki d world sud understand this right.

Chinmaya said...

I agree. Good you thought about the anecdote, and found more thereunto. I wish you wrote another one explaining why we do what we do? That would make the issue clearer and perhaps take it to its culmination (also help people to get rid of their shortcomings in thinking the way they think).

Also, do you really find classification all that wrong? Does it not reek of reality at times?

In any case, a point well-raised and a post well-written.

Baffling said...

shoaib akhtar rocks bey!! i support him and totally against his five yaer ban!!

Oblivion said...

good one dude!

Vinayak said...

Classification may not be that bad after all. It is, for example, as Rohan correctly pointed out, what makes us understand elements better. The thing that is bad is making stupid inferences. But then it is also something that we can do nothing about because all you need for making stupid inferences is the presence of really stupid people and a wise person will know how abundant the world is in them. A wise person will therefore not expect others to realise what you have said in your post and hence just be wise and awesome instead, as he is, always.

Maverick said...

The tendency of us mortals to generalize things while scrutinizing or analyzing events that shape our lives leads to generalizing things and segmenting ideas that make the whole analysis irrelevant and contradictory in the modern context. We love aggregating data and aggregating people.

Searching for a definitive answer to everything that happens on this planet creates a dangerous imbalance between what we perceive and what we are told to perceive. Unpredictability is unscientific, randomness is a sin, fuzzy theories are preposterous..or so it is understood today. The Black Swan by Naseem Nicholas Taleb touches things that are subconsciously invoked in this post and is a must read for people who like to view the world in gray and not just in shades of black and white.

Garam Samosa said...

@Rohan
I share your sadness but at the same time, I believe we can change this, or at least, for a change, start taking people at their place vale rather than face value.

Garam Samosa said...

@kisalay
I knew tumko yehi lesson achcha lagega..khair kuch to seekhe tum bhi..[:P]

Garam Samosa said...

@agrawal
yaar tum jo bhi ho, thanks a lot for the appreciation..n since u hv had the 1st hand experience of all this, i guess u ll think of some way to give ppl a fair chance now on...

Garam Samosa said...

@Anurag
Blog likhna safal hua..dhanyawaad..

Garam Samosa said...

@Ambalika
World samjhe na samjhe, humlogon ko to samajhna chahiye...aur tum toh jarur samjhogi hi ab (huhaa types pun intended)....

Garam Samosa said...

@Chnimaya
Hmm, I guess u r rite, i sud rite a follow-up post...lets' see..

n btw, thnks 4 agreeing...

Garam Samosa said...

@Baffling
Me too

Garam Samosa said...

@Oblivion
Thanks mate

Garam Samosa said...

@Vinayak
Well, thts what i wanted to do via this post..stir us, the supposedly elite brains, and ask ourselves whether we hv an open mind to the persons we meet and the ideas that they float..

Garam Samosa said...

@Maverick
Oooops!!! Huhaa comment bhai...
I will definitely try to read The Black Swan...

Unknown said...

Nice one!!
I really appreciate your effort. Being a Bihari and a Muslim, I had experienced this several times. Unlike Rohan and Vinayak I don't think that classifying people like the way you mentioned makes us understand them better. Its correct to say that Sharks are dangerous while Dolphins are pacific. But saying that Basking Sharks are most dangerous while Dusky Sharks are least is next to foolishness.
(Why don't they have a ride on the later one. :P).
It's really embarrassing to see people predicting one's character by his community or religion. But Pranesh we are no exceptions. I don't know how many readers will be enlightened after reading this but I am sure they definitely will have a thought before uttering such irrational words .

Anonymous said...

yeh blog pranesh ke standard ka nahi hai. Time baut zyada lapse ho gaya hai isliye garam samosha hs lost his touch (:D). To acha hoga agar pranester regularly blog kiya kare (:P).

Unknown said...

okay now i think almost all of dem who r expected to comment hv done it..... so here i am ....now let me tell tht it's me who had spontaneously uttered those words.... i dont know why but it came out.

See as u know me i dont think too much on these type of issues but u have forced me to do so. I'll cite a few examples...pata nahi kyun jab bhi muslim locality se nikalte hain bahut dar sa lagta hai, ajeeb sa feel hota hai.....Then u r sitting in a gathering and someone cracks a joke on Pakistan and a person sitting besides u asks very innocently 'tumhein bura to nahi lag raha'..... so on. These are very small incidents but they build ur mind to say spontaneously 'ill turn into one...' and run away wid d situation.

I do agree that in most of d terrorist activities we 'The Muslims' r involved but anyone wid little brains can understand that a religion cant ever preach to kill the innocent, terrorize d world..... Its d thinking of just a few groups of people and unfortunately this has tainted our image.

May be now im running away frm d issue so lemme stop.... U have raised a very important point .... just dont categorize people and think before blurting things out be it me or u.

Anonymous said...

aap bolein to its just for fun and curiosity aur agar hum bhi mazzak mein kuch jawaab de de to we dont think rationally before we speak
I guess there should be a balance.These are little things, but you never know when these tiny sparks may turn into a fire .

Anonymous said...

ATH0: I don't know why the Korean guys at school love Steve so much.
ATH0: He doesn't look too Korean.
Batman: He told me.
Batman: Basically, he beat them at StarCraft and became their king.

#comment: talk about stereotyping! :))

Garam Samosa said...

Thanks a lot Janishar for understanding..I know everyone of us has faced such nonsense..So, at least we should think a moment before categorizing blindly...huhaa comment, in fact..[:)]

Garam Samosa said...

@Tauseef
:) :)
Thanks a lot dear for understanding..lets' make ourselves better..

Garam Samosa said...

@Afreen
I guess you couldn't decipher why the hell was this post written at all..Sorry for you and all of us that you couldn't..What I intended was to point out was completely lost on you and this is definitely what is defined as irrational in my dictionary...

Garam Samosa said...

@Sushmita
Thanks for reading the post..will try to improve..[:)]

Garam Samosa said...

@Baffling
Khub spamming karte ho.. :P

Manish said...

waise to hum ye post usi din padh liye the jis din tum likh ke humko link bheje the, lekin tab comment dene ka tempo nahi aaya.
COMMENT: bahut hi relevant hai aaj ke time mein. agar ye cheez khatm ho jaaye to shaayd humaara desh (BHAARAT) gart mein jaane se bach jaaye [:D]

Anonymous said...

Han to hum already ek formal sa comment daal diye the.. but tumare next blog ko padhane ke baad kuchh yaad aaya to fir se daal rahi hun.. to baat ye hai ki.. ein sab dher sari chijon ke pichhe i mean logon ko uksaane ke picche hum jaise intellectuals aur padhe likhe log kai baar hote hai..Pakistan pe jokes crack karna tab to tak to thoda bahut theek hai but uske baad ye bhi puchhana ki tumhe bura to nahi laga.. uss time kafi bura lagata hai.. aapas me hi kai baar bhaating ke time me bhi kai baar kuchh bol dena.. jo at that particular time ignore kiya bhi jaye to later on sab ikkatthe hoke hi bawandar ban jate hai.. so sirf eis baat ko feel karna ki we sud not or other sud not directly involve in this religionism theek hai but hum indirectly kitana hurt karte hai wo bhi to sochana chahiye na??

Garam Samosa said...

@Manish

Bhai ekdum sahi kehte ho, desh ko gart me jane se bachane ke liye isko khatm karna behad jaruri hai..lets' make ourselves better...

Garam Samosa said...

@Balika
Thanks for letting out what u felt even though a bit late.

About the insensitive attitude shown while say joking abt Pakistan, I have a different take on this. I don't feel any animosity and would advocate laughing it off if someone passes a comment which is made in good humor, only if it has hidden connotations the person concerned should be hurt. I definitely do not agree with pseudo-secularism and over-the-top sensitiveness.

But yes, the above holds when the persons concerned are extremely mature ppl which sadly the junta is not. So, the point u hav is accepted...lets' keep this in mind next time we joke around..[:)]

Anonymous said...

great post :)

Garam Samosa said...

@Sheekha

Yo! Thankooo!

Murthy A V N said...

I was just wondering , What would be Kalam's Answer if he was asked the same question -- the one you asked your friend (given the fact he designed some of the early missiles for India !!)

an opinion said...

a profound and thought provoking write. the so called "special image" we tend to attach to people of different culture, regions etc. goes to show the moral backwardness of ours. And we think ourselves to be pedantic!!

so long as this jaundiced view of ourselves is not done away with; we would be a savage-within-geek-outside.
not a penny more; not a penny less.

Aravind said...

very good post! I completley agree with you...

Sometimes when I see someone for the first time, I am tempted to categorise him into one of the stereotypes..

Then I feel guilty for not being progressive :) and then voluntarily take him out of that group... and give him a chance to show what kind of a person he really is...

This process has often helped me in relations... as the person himself may be tired of stereotypism...

Even if he is not... since most stereotypes are negative, and since I remove that feeling from me, the person has a better chance of becoming a good friend...

cheers! I really liked your post man :)